Temari Sushi and Raising a Tween [RECIPE]

Good Morning Everyone!

How are you today? It’s Friday! Do a little dance in your chair because we made it to another weekend! 🙂 Woohoo! Alright, today I want to talk about parenting. Specifically raising a tween. That’s such an interesting word, isn’t it? Tween. I don’t think any parent is ever ready to admit that their child is now “in between” being a child and a full-blown teenager. But… y’all I’m there. My daughter is officially a tween. How do I know? Well, the other day she gushed to me all about a crush she has on a boy. Now it’s a simple little crush, but it fascinated me to no end. When did she change from thinking boys were “icky” to them being “cute”? I feel like I blink my eyes and she is growing up so fast!

I began to reflect on my pregnancy with her. It was as smooth as any normal pregnancy. The delivery had been fairly uneventful and thank God she was born healthy and happy. I look at her now and I can’t help but smile in awe at the young lady she is becoming. When you’re pregnant, you read all of those “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” books. Then, if you aren’t too sleep deprived you begin reading, “What to Expect During the Toddler Years”. (I never finished that book fully). But I never got a manual on “What to Expect When Your Child Hits Puberty” or “What to Expect From a Tween”. Those weren’t on my bookshelf. There was no guide given to me at the hospital that said: when your child is having a surge of pre-pubescent hormones, sometimes all they need is a hug and a gentle ear to listen to them. Yeah… that wasn’t in the parenting handbook.

But y’all that is reality. My child is becoming her own person. She is growing, changing, and creating her own identity. As her mom it’s kind of scary and exciting to watch. Since there is no handbook on how to raise a tween I made my own list. I hope this gives you a giggle and you enjoy reading it.

Tips on How to Raise a Tween: 

  1. Practice Deep Breathing. You think Lamaze is for suckers? Think again. Your cute, little dumpling is about to give you some serious sass during the tween years. Be prepared and find your state of zen. Take a deep breath. And then do it again. It will help keep you calm.
  2. Not everything will make sense. Sometimes you’ll find that your tween is passionate… like intensely passionate about something that you might not care very much about. That’s okay. They are becoming their own person. Try and see why they care so much about that thing, and see it from their level. It might change your opinion too!
  3. A hug goes a long way. Hormones suck. C’mon let’s admit it. If you’re a woman then you know that PMS is a royal pain in the behind. Now ramp that up ten-fold and that is what your tween is experiencing. They are going to be feeling emotions and not fully understand why they are feeling what they are feeling. As such, the safest, happiest place in the world is right in your arms. Hug them and let them know that everything is going to be okay. It really does go a long way.
  4. Get silly. This one is important. Your tween is still a kid. They might want to grow up fast and get an iphone, (No.), or get a flat screen TV in their room (uh… no.), or wear only a certain brand of clothing. (Honey do I look like a money tree to you?). But they are still kids. Get silly and play games together. That time of precious bonding is ever-lasting and they will remember all the times you took to get down and just have fun with them. Do it, you won’t regret it.
  5. Remind them that their body changes are normal. Two of my favorite stand up comedians, Gabriel Iglesias and Jo Koy both spoke about their sons not wanting to put on deodorant and how many times they had to literally place the stick in their child’s hands and say, “PUT IT ON!!”. Guys, it’s normal. Your child didn’t have to put on deodorant for years and now all of a sudden their armpits stink. It’s normal! Remind them that it’s okay to think that body hair is weird, or that their armpits producing b.o. is strange. But still… it’s normal. Perfectly normal. Then slowly teach them again and again how to care for their bodies.
  6. Lastly, bite the bullet and talk to your kids about sex. Chances are they know more than you think they do. But still, it should come from YOU. I know, as a parent it’s weird. When my daughter finally asked, “So how does the egg and seed make a baby then?” I felt my face turn beet-red. I don’t think any parent is ever prepared for that. But… I went all scientific with it. I explained about the basic anatomy of a male and female, (and even stated that it is because we are mammals that we reproduce this way), and then finished my mini-lecture with how a baby is born. It helped reduce the awkward tension and keep my face from burning off. At the end of the talk my daughter told me she understood… and that she was never having children. Right on, kiddo. 😉

So there’s my list on how to navigate the tween years. Sometimes you just have to keep your parenting methods simple. Speaking of simple, let’s talk about today’s recipe. Temari Sushi. Oh my goodness is this a great recipe! Now I have a secret to confess: up until this recipe I had never made proper sushi rice. I know, I was so lazy! I guess I couldn’t understand how a few tablespoons of rice wine vinegar could really make such a difference. But wow, does it ever! The rice wine vinegar makes the rice so flavorful and fresh-tasting. If you have a rice cooker this recipe is a breeze to make, but even if you don’t, cooking rice on the stove top is easy and you’ll have this whipped up before you know it. Enjoy this simple, delicious recipe everyone and keep on cooking! ❤


Temari Sushi 

Yields: 2-3 servings

Courtesy of: Sarah Marx Feldner, “A Cook’s Journey to Japan”


  • 2 cups steamed jasmine rice
  • 5 tablespoons rice wine vinegar
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons sugar
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 5 ounces smoked salmon, sliced paper thin
  • Chives, cut into 1 inch lengths

For Wasabi Mayo: 

  • 2 tablespoons mayonnaise
  • 1 teaspoon wasabi paste


  1. Mix the wasabi paste and mayonnaise in a small bowl and set aside.
  2. Combine the cooked jasmine rice, rice wine vinegar, sugar, and salt together in a mixing bowl and set aside.
  3. Cut the smoked salmon into thin squares and set aside. Now it’s time to assemble!
  4. Wet your hands and begin by taking about 2 teaspoons worth of rice in your hands and form into a ball. Place a piece of salmon on top. Add a small dab of wasabi mayo and garnish with 2 pieces of chives. Repeat until all ingredients are used up.
  5. Serve immediately and enjoy!




  1. I would love to try your Temari Sushi. What a beautiful picture……….quality level for any cookbook, in my humble opinion.

    More importantly, I loved reading your reflections on the tween years and your recommendations. Mahalo!!

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