Homemade Tartar Sauce and Being White in America Today [RECIPE]

Good Morning Everyone!

Happy Wednesday to you! We’re halfway through the week. Woohoo! I’m sitting here sipping a cup of tea, slathered in Vicks vapor rub, and forcing myself to rest. When you’re sick there is little you can do but rest and recuperate. As such, laying around I often begin to read the news. Lately the news has been difficult to read. It even makes me fearful at times. Normally I’d have a funny story or rant to share with you but today’s post is going to have a more serious tone to it. I want to talk about being white in America today. I know, it may seem silly. “Why does she need to talk about being white? Isn’t that selfish when so many immigrants are hurting?”. Well in a way… yes. But as a liberal Caucasian who is married to a Filipino, it impacts me too.

Like I stated in my previous post, I’ve lived in America all of my life. I have family in New York as well as the deep south. I’ve also lived in both places. Never once in my 30+ years of living have I ever viewed America as a place of bigotry or racism. Now, ask my parents and they could tell you all about the civil rights movement and how America rose up during the Vietnam War. America is no stranger to civil unrest. But in my generation, 9/11 was the first real incident where I began to feel like the nation was changing. And quite frankly, it did.

I remember being able to fly without having to take off my shoes or strip down layers of clothing. I remember the anger that I initially felt against the terrorists who flew planes into the world trade towers. At the time I was in middle school. We were in the middle of class when all of a sudden another teacher ran into our classroom and turned on the TV. We all sat in absolute silence watching the horror unfold. But in the chaos that followed for weeks and months, never once did I think: “You know what? All Muslims are bad”. And I was living in Georgia! A state that is in the heart of the South and known for being very conservative. I just never had that mindset.

This morning I woke up and began to read the news. A headline immediately caught my eye: “Being Indian in Trump’s America” it read. I clicked open the article. In it, the journalist had interviewed many Hindi’s who knew people who were attacked mistakenly for being Muslim. (As if all brown skinned people are the same?). I felt my heart begin to thud in my chest. My husband has beautiful, brown skin. He is Filipino and immigrated to America almost 10 years ago. He doesn’t speak of the news much, but every now and then he will say, “I can’t go to <insert U.S. city in the mid-west or east coast>, I’ll get killed”. At first I thought he was joking, but after reading the news I began to understand.

Being white in today’s America has a sense of privilege. Somehow there is a political climate that has given white extremists the right to hurt, murder, and intimidate anyone that they deem inferior. I can’t help but feel like there is an undertone quite similar to the years just before the Holocaust began. So I nodded to my husband. For a while at least we won’t be traveling to the East Coast. We will stay tucked away in our little cocoon on the West Coast, in a community that I pray remains liberal and open-minded. We will hug each other tight and remember that most Americans are normal people who wouldn’t dare hurt another by the color of their skin. But we will also remain vigilant. If there is violence and bigotry in America, it will not start with me.

And now let’s move onto the recipe.

The days are getting longer and the weather is finally warming up. (Sorry East Coast! I know you’re buried under snow right now. Hang in there!). Summer makes me think of seafood and what better condiment to dip, slather, and spread over seafood than tartar sauce. I love tartar sauce. Recently we made shrimp po’boys and they were mouthwateringly good. Why? Yes, the batter for the shrimp was spicy and flavored well. But this sauce was divine on a thick, French roll. And it couldn’t be easier to make! Just grab these simple ingredients, mix them together and pop it into your fridge. Please note that while the sauce will keep after one day, the pickle will make the sauce slightly more sour the longer it refrigerates. Alright, here’s the recipe everyone! Have an awesome day, and as always… keep on cooking ❤ !


Homemade Tartar Sauce 

Yields: 2 cups


  • 1/2 cup mayonnaise
  • 1/2 cup finely chopped onion
  • 1/2 cup finely chopped pickle (about 3)
  • Salt and black pepper to taste


  1. In a food processor pulse the onion and pickle until finely diced. Toss into a bowl.
  2. Add the mayonnaise and mix through.
  3. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Refrigerate for at least 30 minutes. Then spread on your favorite seafood dish and enjoy!






  1. It was heartbreaking to read your post this morning, but I understand your feelings and your husband’s fear in this climate of hate and hostility. You are both wise to stay away from areas of the nation where you might encounter violence and bigotry. That being said, I am so very proud and honored that you and my son-in-law met and are creating a future together with my granddaughter. I highly encourage you both to read Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance. Your brother told me about it and I have read other reviews as well. It will definitely bring back some familiar scenes from your childhood visiting with relatives in the south. It is also a way to try to make sense of the illogical election of dt.
    Love you forever,

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  2. Looking different brings out a weak cowardly nature in some people. I look Chinese, although some have suggested I also look south sea Islander. I’m fifth generation Australian and to this day when I open my mouth and speak in Strine, it still surprises some people. People expect an awkward accent and a hunt for words.

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    • Well said. Arrogance is never okay, but I think it’s great that you don’t let it bother you. We just have to keep on keeping on, right? 🙂 Awesome comment and can’t wait to see more gorgeous photos on your blog! 🙂

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